I have recently been grieving the loss of my old friends. Whether by choice or circumstance we have become seperated - 'ships that passed in the night'.
I have realized that maybe Facebook isn't as great as I thought it was. Yes, you are able to see what is going on in the lives of people you know, but it also forces you to realize the friendships that are no longer there. I find myself looking through my 'friends' friend lists to see if anyone else I know has joined. Especially people that I went to school with. My graduating class had ten of us. My friend Kassia was killed in a car accident a couple years after we graduated. But other than that I had no idea what had happened to anyone until I had found them on Facebook. There are still two missing from my class (not on Facebook) and I have no idea what has happened to them. Who have they become? Did their lives go the way they thought?
I have linked to many people that I used to know and had counted them as great friends and in some instances they were my best friends and soul mates. For some reason those friendships fell to the wayside. I realize that my moving so far away from 'home' hasn't helped this. But even if I had stayed in the north, I quite possibly wouldn't be any closer to them than I am now.
I don't know if it is just a melancholic mood I am in, or that I am getting older, or that I am living in a 'new' place but this has been a tough realization.
I miss my youth and I miss the friends of my youth.
I have realized that maybe Facebook isn't as great as I thought it was. Yes, you are able to see what is going on in the lives of people you know, but it also forces you to realize the friendships that are no longer there. I find myself looking through my 'friends' friend lists to see if anyone else I know has joined. Especially people that I went to school with. My graduating class had ten of us. My friend Kassia was killed in a car accident a couple years after we graduated. But other than that I had no idea what had happened to anyone until I had found them on Facebook. There are still two missing from my class (not on Facebook) and I have no idea what has happened to them. Who have they become? Did their lives go the way they thought?
I have linked to many people that I used to know and had counted them as great friends and in some instances they were my best friends and soul mates. For some reason those friendships fell to the wayside. I realize that my moving so far away from 'home' hasn't helped this. But even if I had stayed in the north, I quite possibly wouldn't be any closer to them than I am now.
I don't know if it is just a melancholic mood I am in, or that I am getting older, or that I am living in a 'new' place but this has been a tough realization.
I miss my youth and I miss the friends of my youth.
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I guess, though, realistically, we are all going to grow and change...and sometimes, that brings distance. Yep, I've definitely been there. Good post:)